Today I attended my first lesson on Human Resource Management. I always heard from my peers and seniors that it is a scary module for the engineers because it requires a lot of efforts to do reading, analysis, presentation, and finally study for a final examination.
However in my opinion, a loser loses because he admits failure from the start. If one could have a mindset of succeeding, i believe, nothing could be an obstacle to him. It comes with a lot of determinations and confidence.
It’s all about one’s mindset. 🙂
I came across this term of “self-actualization” just now and I think it is something that I should learn to achieve in life ( but most of all, I should still build my relationship with God 😉 ).
So here’s my understanding to “self-actualization”. It refers to how a person live his/her life to the fullest by maximizing his/her potentials and use them in a creative manner.
Here’s an excerpt from Wikipedia on the characteristics of a self-actualizer.
- Efficient perceptions of reality. Self-actualizers are able to judge situations correctly and honestly. They are very sensitive to the fake and dishonest, and are free to see reality ‘as it is’. – learning to be less blur!
- Comfortable acceptance of self, others, nature. Self-actualizers accept their own human nature with all its flaws. The shortcomings of others and the contradictions of the human condition are accepted with humor and tolerance. – learning to tolerate myself and others.
- Spontaneity. Maslow’s subjects extended their creativity into everyday activities. Actualizers tend to be unusually alive, engaged, and spontaneous. – learning to be spontaneous and more energetic.
- Task centering. Most of Maslow’s subjects had a mission to fulfill in life or some task or problem ‘beyond’ themselves (instead of outside of themselves) to pursue. Humanitarians such as Albert Schweitzer and Mother Teresa are considered to have possessed this quality. – learning to focus on my tasks and complete them.
- Autonomy. Self-actualizers are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. They tend to be resourceful and independent. – learning to be more independent all the time!
- Continued freshness of appreciation. The self-actualizer seems to constantly renew appreciation of life’s basic goods. A sunset or a flower will be experienced as intensely time after time as it was at first. There is an “innocence of vision”, like that of an artist or child. – learning to be appreciative to everything God has given me!
- Fellowship with humanity. Maslow’s subjects felt a deep identification with others and the human situation in general. – learning to be more understanding.
- Profound interpersonal relationships. The interpersonal relationships of self-actualizers are marked by deep loving bonds. – learning to love my neighbours and enemies (if there is any).
- Comfort with solitude. Despite their satisfying relationships with others, self-actualizing persons value solitude and are comfortable being alone. – learning to treasure the feeling of “alone”. Actually I’m quite enjoying it…
- Non-hostile sense of humor. This refers to the wonderful capacity to laugh at oneself. It also describes the kind of humor a man like Abraham Lincoln had. Lincoln probably never made a joke that hurt anybody. His wry comments were gentle proddings of human shortcomings. – learning to be more sensitive and tell only sensible jokes.
- Peak experiences. All of Maslow’s subjects reported the frequent occurrence of peak experiences (temporary moments of self-actualization). These occasions were marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. Self-actualizers reported feeling at one with the universe, stronger and calmer than ever before, filled with light, beautiful and good, and so forth. – heh, I often am overwhelm by these feelings!
In short, it is a whole new semester and last year of my University life. I have to change in order to go further and reach higher.